When I get older losing my hair, Many years from now, …. Will you still need me, will you still feed me, When I’m sixty-four? Thanks to the fab four! How do we live excellently to probably 100 years of age? This is now reality for many people. We have worked it out! The American Medical Association defines middle age as fifty five to seventy five, young elderly to eighty five and ordinary elderly eighty five plus. Mountains are climbed a step at a time! To work out an excellent life needs taking some careful steps and asking some questions: • Where are you from? This is about your history and how you got to be where you are now. • Where are you now? This is about defining your current circumstances and issues. • Where do you want to be? What do you want? What do you not want? A valuable way to start this process is to ask yourself what are your three wishes? Where are you from? Ask yourself and write down some basic biographical details about yourself. You know, age, sex (both which and how much) where you were born, about your family, education, culture, football team you support, what skills you have, what jobs you have done, where you have been, who you know and have known Where are you now? This is also biographical information about you now. Where do you live? Do you own or rent? Who do you live with? What do you do? What do you enjoy? What are you good at? What do you like and dislike? How is your health? Where do you want to be? Imagine a fairy story with everyone living happily ever after, but reality is more of a horror story. The Dilnot report states that some people think putting someone in a home except in extreme circumstances is a sin. This is strange, as there are many excellent solutions. They are not widely publicised and it is as if the so called professionals are unaware of them. For example a local council publishes annually a “Care Directory” which is primarily a list of local care homes. There is an unspoken assumption – get old and go into a home, and wait patiently to shuffle off this mortal coil. What did Dylan Thomas write? Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day Rage, rage against the dying of the light.